1 day ago
I estimate there is about a 70 lb weight difference between 2007 & 2017. Neither is better than the other. I'm busy getting my health back but I'm proud of how far I've come. My after is bigger, but happier. Some might see mistakes, shame. I see confidence. I have more happiness with my body now than I did then. Then I was obsessive with dieting shaming myself anytime I went slightly off track, now I'm well aware I'm trying my best and guilt doesn't hold me hostage. Then I always felt insecure, huge. Now I feel beautiful every day. I've thought about what changed? I have 3 tips that helped me find true happiness with my body.
1. CELEBRATE WHAT YOUR BODY CAN DO. Stop focusing on what it can't. For me, I can't lose weight quick, I can't run fast, I can't fit into a size 2 but my body rocks. It CAN do awesome things. I've grown 4 babies, I've woken up every day and had the strength to care for them. I've played with them, I've loved them. My brain is so good to me! I have a constant stream of ideas that allowed me to start and run multiple businesses and I'm able to work doing something I love.
2. GIVE YOURSELF TIME. I decided a long time ago I had too many blessings to focus on my jean size. I have a family to love, friends to support, businesses to grow and I just couldn't give one more bit of energy to the weight obsession. It didn't deserve my time. I have had to be patient with my body. The ebbs and flows of pregnancy has brought me up & down weight wise but being patient knowing "I can focus on that eventually" even if not now has healed my mindset.
3. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS. It's an ever revolving affirmation but when I find a good one, I stick to it and repeat it frequently. Write in on my mirror, save it as the screen saver on my phone. Right now I love "Work out because you love your body, not because you hate it", "Your body is on your team, work together not against each other, cheer it on." So when I look back at 2007 Ashley the only thing I think is "I wish I would have been nicer to her" and that's my goal now. Be nice to myself now. I want you to do the same, don't waste time with anything less than loving yourself FIERCELY ❤